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Why establishing a routine just might be the single most rewarding thing you do abroad.

Normally “routine” – at least in my world – has negative connotations. It invokes a dread of dull, grinding monotony. There is no more depressing expression than “day in, day out:” as if life was just going through the turnstiles, again and again.

But routine has entirely different meanings traveling. It’s a new learning curve, it’s paradoxically novel. I think sometimes you can learn more from establishing a routine than from jumping from here to there on a frenetic traveling binge. And the process of settling into a routine is one of the most gratifying and revealing processes that unfolds after moving to a new place.

In Japan I loved the morning subway ride to work. There were the blank-faced salarymen hanging onto the loops dangling from the ceiling. The perfectly made up girls in sheer pantyhose and heels, fast asleep, lolling ever so slightly side to side in some restless underground dream. The school kids in uniforms staring into space, staring down at their feet.

I never thought I’d work 9-6, and three months was probably the threshold for how long I could stand it without becoming one of those blank-faced types walking in circles in the subway station whispering to herself. But while they lasted, those three months were brilliant – I loved the feeling of being done at six and coming out of the Sakae station into a bustling evening, feeling exhausted and relieved and still somewhat alert since everything, even after months there, was still so new.

Eventually that newness was paired with familiarity – a paradoxical combo that creates, for me, the greatest traveling feeling.

Weekends captured this like nothing else in Japan. After so many strange teaching schedules and a year of freelancing, weekends were unexpected gifts this new routine had coughed up.

Saturdays were precious. In the summer in Japan it gets light around 5, and I always seemed to get up around this time, despite the debauchery of the night before. I suppose this has always been a Sarah curse/blessing. Mornings are my time of day.

The city felt so quiet. I’d to the Circle K to get milk, or roam a bit in the Osu Kannon area, waiting for the supermarket to open. An occasional bike would breeze by, the sun would do its morning thing, coming out and disappearing behind clouds, and I’d get this detached, luxurious feeling of freedom.

There are lots of ways to define the passing of time, and weekdays vs. weekends has never been my preferred method. But I must say that in this routine, weekends were sweeter than a fat persimmon. Than a beer after six straight hours of classes. Than finding black sesame at the 100 yen shop. They were the crème de la crème of luxury.

But now, back in Mexico, weekends have faded into a wider swath of time. It’s not necessarily a bad thing – just another routine that’s petered out and become part of the nostalgia for a particular place from the past.

Transitory routine. A travel paradox. At some point I’ll have to reconcile the love of getting settled with the love of leaving, the love of routine with the love of novelty, the desire for newness with the desire for familiarity. Or not.

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About The Author

Sarah Menkedick

Matador Contributing Editor Sarah Menkedick has traveled, lived, and taught on five continents, and is constantly in pursuit of spicy food, dark beer, and new places to run. She is an MFA student at the University of Pittsburgh.

  • http://miller-david.com david miller

    i’m feeling this.

    best routine ever is still waking up, paddling out, surfing the morning session, coming back when the wind wrecks the waves, cooking breakfast, extended hammock session afterwards for digestions-writing-reading-working. later the afternoon walk through the jungle into town, talking to people (or just whistling at them) you’re getting to know a little better each day, buying a few things in town, mailing letters, checking the ciber-cafe, climbing the high point to feel the wind and see what the wave are doing, then walk back down to camp, maybe with a treat (uvas?) for the local family whose beach you’re camped on, and then either afternoon surf if there’s waves, or daily maintenance around camp, tidying up, staying out of the afternoon heat until evening then it’s fires and maybe bottles or perhaps just looking at stars and wondering about all the rest of your gente spread out everywhere.

    my bro dj said once ‘it’s like all different versions of the same day.’

  • http://www.intelligenttravelblog.com Marilyn_Res

    Your post reminds me of Daisann McLane’s essay on the unexpected joys of doing laundry in a foreign country: http://traveler.nationalgeographic.com/2009/07/real-travel-text

  • http://www.tvrotsyourmindgrapes.com/ Marissa

    I’m a compulsive organizer and list-maker so I thrive on routine anyway and I appreciate this take on routine. It is possible to get the most out of your daily pattern, even at home.

  • http://matadortrips.com/ Hal Amen

    Ah, weekends. Something to be said for the 9-5. I miss them.

    • http://thelonglayover.blogspot.com Carlo

      Trust me. Not worth it.

  • http://www.lolaakinmade.com Lola

    Loved this piece Sarah.

    Just finally coming out of the 9-5 game after a long time, I am definitely looking forward to a different kind of routine. One set at my own pace and time.

  • http://www.mikesryukyugallery.com Ryukyu Mike

    Circle K ! You just reminded me about them. 7-11 and Circle K haven’t made it to the southernmost prefecture, yet. Surprised you got milk insteada coffee, though. My routine goes like this: Never know what day it is, Huskies know Papa don’t walk them until he drinks a quarta iced-coffee while he’s reading the mornin’ paper. Paper comes between 4-5AM. Alpha male Husky licks Papa’s face as if to say “Wake up, hurry up and read yer damn paper and let’s go”. Dogs sit and stare at me the whole time I’m reading. Fold the paper when I’m done and they start jumpin’ for joy. If I sling a camera holster over my shoulder they know it’s gonna be a 6hr walk; no camera maybe a mile or two. There’d be some sort of routine if tjhe damn paper would come at the same time every day !

  • http://onceatraveler.com Turner

    I agree, Sarah. Once I had gotten my routine down in Japan, I discovered this was a form of traveling in itself: being comfortable with living abroad. By “traveling” at work in Japan five days a week and venting my real wanderlust on weekend excursions, it became comfortable… too comfortable… part of the reason I ended up leaving Kagoshima.

    Note on photos: What in the world were you doing in that first picture? Cute cat.

    “Something is afoot at the Circle K”

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