Comments on: Love in the time of Matador: How’d I end up here with you? http://matadornetwork.com/life/love-in-the-time-of-matador-howd-i-end-up-here-with-you/ travel culture worldwide Wed, 08 Feb 2012 23:28:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Kelsey Freeman http://matadornetwork.com/life/love-in-the-time-of-matador-howd-i-end-up-here-with-you/#comment-88042 Kelsey Freeman Sun, 14 Aug 2011 06:38:00 +0000 http://matadorlife.com/?p=6164#comment-88042 This is definitely my favourite of this series.  Great piece, and I see a lot of what you mention in my own relationship. This is definitely my favourite of this series.  Great piece, and I see a lot of what you mention in my own relationship.

]]> By: Kelsey Freeman http://matadornetwork.com/life/love-in-the-time-of-matador-howd-i-end-up-here-with-you/#comment-88043 Kelsey Freeman Sun, 14 Aug 2011 06:38:00 +0000 http://matadorlife.com/?p=6164#comment-88043 This is definitely my favourite of this series.  Great piece, and I see a lot of what you mention in my own relationship. This is definitely my favourite of this series.  Great piece, and I see a lot of what you mention in my own relationship.

]]> By: Clare http://matadornetwork.com/life/love-in-the-time-of-matador-howd-i-end-up-here-with-you/#comment-56680 Clare Fri, 11 Mar 2011 19:34:41 +0000 http://matadorlife.com/?p=6164#comment-56680 What a really great article - I feel quite moved. I've always found relationships incredibly hard, i.e. being with someone after the initial few weeks of 'oh my god he's my soulmate' kick in. Now I'm with someone who I fell for like never before. And later down the line it HAS changed, but so far, whenever the hard times come, there's a core underneath that reminds me it's still something that expands my life to a level it would never get to otherwise. Really nice to hear from someone who's 20 years down the line who still seems to have the same complex core in their relationship that I'm starting to find in mine. What a really great article – I feel quite moved. I’ve always found relationships incredibly hard, i.e. being with someone after the initial few weeks of ‘oh my god he’s my soulmate’ kick in. Now I’m with someone who I fell for like never before. And later down the line it HAS changed, but so far, whenever the hard times come, there’s a core underneath that reminds me it’s still something that expands my life to a level it would never get to otherwise. Really nice to hear from someone who’s 20 years down the line who still seems to have the same complex core in their relationship that I’m starting to find in mine.

]]> By: Kirsten Alana http://matadornetwork.com/life/love-in-the-time-of-matador-howd-i-end-up-here-with-you/#comment-55803 Kirsten Alana Thu, 02 Sep 2010 05:04:20 +0000 http://matadorlife.com/?p=6164#comment-55803 This is my favorite of the "Love in the Time of Matador" series because I think you touched on the most important truth: that love is not always easy. But neither is it right to just give up and throw away what can be good again. And that monogomy doesn't have to be a bad choice. And the importance of realizing the difference between relationships that have ebbs and flows and relationships that may just be plain bad. When I was married it was mostly bad. And while I debated as to whether or not I could stick with it through the ebbs & flows; my ex-husband simply found someone else and replaced me. And suggested divorce. If I am ever married again, or in a committed relationship, I don't intend to take so much time deciding. And I intend to enter into a relationship that's serious with someone who I want to love through the ups and downs. Not just, who excites me in the present moment. This is my favorite of the “Love in the Time of Matador” series because I think you touched on the most important truth: that love is not always easy. But neither is it right to just give up and throw away what can be good again. And that monogomy doesn’t have to be a bad choice. And the importance of realizing the difference between relationships that have ebbs and flows and relationships that may just be plain bad.

When I was married it was mostly bad. And while I debated as to whether or not I could stick with it through the ebbs & flows; my ex-husband simply found someone else and replaced me. And suggested divorce.

If I am ever married again, or in a committed relationship, I don’t intend to take so much time deciding. And I intend to enter into a relationship that’s serious with someone who I want to love through the ups and downs. Not just, who excites me in the present moment.

]]> By: Titi http://matadornetwork.com/life/love-in-the-time-of-matador-howd-i-end-up-here-with-you/#comment-55692 Titi Wed, 11 Aug 2010 21:48:28 +0000 http://matadorlife.com/?p=6164#comment-55692 Thank you for your insight, Leigh. Definitely food for thought for the future! Thank you for your insight, Leigh. Definitely food for thought for the future!

]]> By: Russo http://matadornetwork.com/life/love-in-the-time-of-matador-howd-i-end-up-here-with-you/#comment-55527 Russo Wed, 21 Jul 2010 06:32:48 +0000 http://matadorlife.com/?p=6164#comment-55527 Hey Leigh, I'm super late reading this, but I would kick myself if I didn't respond. GREAT piece and, like everyone as said, very touching and brave! It is great to read something so honest and direct; a lot of people feel the 'soul mate' and 'happily-ever-after' relationships are the things to strive for, but I share your sentiments in thinking the couple should work at making it work. I don't believe in 'perfect' relationships and think that disagreements, arguments, and honesty are the things that make a great relationship. Sure, you will experience your ups and downs, but I think that is only part of the ride. If your in it, you have to be in it for the good, the bad, and the ugly. Communication and hard work should be essential keys to one's relationships. Hey Leigh,

I’m super late reading this, but I would kick myself if I didn’t respond. GREAT piece and, like everyone as said, very touching and brave! It is great to read something so honest and direct; a lot of people feel the ‘soul mate’ and ‘happily-ever-after’ relationships are the things to strive for, but I share your sentiments in thinking the couple should work at making it work. I don’t believe in ‘perfect’ relationships and think that disagreements, arguments, and honesty are the things that make a great relationship. Sure, you will experience your ups and downs, but I think that is only part of the ride. If your in it, you have to be in it for the good, the bad, and the ugly. Communication and hard work should be essential keys to one’s relationships.

]]> By: Jen http://matadornetwork.com/life/love-in-the-time-of-matador-howd-i-end-up-here-with-you/#comment-55408 Jen Thu, 01 Jul 2010 18:05:05 +0000 http://matadorlife.com/?p=6164#comment-55408 Hi Leigh, A friend of mine just sent this post for me to read as I'm preparing for marriage next year. I've read it over and over and thought to myself, this is so refreshing to read and "hear." I was reading comments as well and wondering exactly what you commented above...what did you write that was brave and alarming? I feel as though this is true for all of us in any relationship-figuring out what we're willing to work through because my faults will follow me wherever I go. I just wanted to say thank you for this - I truly believe in this post! Hi Leigh,

A friend of mine just sent this post for me to read as I’m preparing for marriage next year. I’ve read it over and over and thought to myself, this is so refreshing to read and “hear.” I was reading comments as well and wondering exactly what you commented above…what did you write that was brave and alarming? I feel as though this is true for all of us in any relationship-figuring out what we’re willing to work through because my faults will follow me wherever I go. I just wanted to say thank you for this – I truly believe in this post!

]]> By: Leigh Shulman http://matadornetwork.com/life/love-in-the-time-of-matador-howd-i-end-up-here-with-you/#comment-55337 Leigh Shulman Wed, 23 Jun 2010 13:03:17 +0000 http://matadorlife.com/?p=6164#comment-55337 Hey Ash, I'd love to meet up with you at Burning Man! There are a bunch of us going from Matador, although I think the details and specific aren't nailed down yet. I'm going to ask around and see if there's any thought to having a central place where the Matador community can connect. And if not yet, we'll work on pulling that together. Hey Ash,

I’d love to meet up with you at Burning Man! There are a bunch of us going from Matador, although I think the details and specific aren’t nailed down yet.

I’m going to ask around and see if there’s any thought to having a central place where the Matador community can connect. And if not yet, we’ll work on pulling that together.

]]> By: Leigh Shulman http://matadornetwork.com/life/love-in-the-time-of-matador-howd-i-end-up-here-with-you/#comment-55338 Leigh Shulman Wed, 23 Jun 2010 13:01:19 +0000 http://matadorlife.com/?p=6164#comment-55338 Thanks for your comments, everyone. It's funny. When I rad your reactions to this piece, I couldn't help but wondering what exactly had I divulged that makes this so honest and, *ulp*, brave? At the same time, while I posted this article here, I didn't share it on Twitter or Facebook where my friends and family are sure to see it. They're going to have to make an extra effort to visit Matador if they want to read this. Thanks for your comments, everyone.

It’s funny. When I rad your reactions to this piece, I couldn’t help but wondering what exactly had I divulged that makes this so honest and, *ulp*, brave?

At the same time, while I posted this article here, I didn’t share it on Twitter or Facebook where my friends and family are sure to see it. They’re going to have to make an extra effort to visit Matador if they want to read this.

]]> By: Ash http://matadornetwork.com/life/love-in-the-time-of-matador-howd-i-end-up-here-with-you/#comment-55336 Ash Wed, 23 Jun 2010 08:32:48 +0000 http://matadorlife.com/?p=6164#comment-55336 Leigh, maybe i will see you at burning man. i too will be going solo. good for you for doing what you need to do, and to noah for understanding. Leigh, maybe i will see you at burning man. i too will be going solo. good for you for doing what you need to do, and to noah for understanding.

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