Comments on: Someday syndrome & the system of I-can’ts http://matadornetwork.com/life/someday-syndrome-the-system-of-i-can%e2%80%99ts/ travel culture worldwide Wed, 08 Feb 2012 22:53:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Elizabeth http://matadornetwork.com/life/someday-syndrome-the-system-of-i-can%e2%80%99ts/#comment-56300 Elizabeth Wed, 17 Nov 2010 05:49:57 +0000 http://matadorlife.com/?p=4276#comment-56300 I remember, as a child, trying the "I can't" with my very wise Aunt. She turned around and said "Success comes in cans. ... Failure comes in can'ts." I also remember reading a proverb that went something along the lines of "Even a journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step." Being the champion procrastinator that I am, my long-suffering husband finally got fed up with me saying "I'll get around to it one day". He took an old, unwanted CD and glued a circle of scrap cardboard to it. On it he wrote "Round To-it". So now that I have my round to-it, I have no excuse! Think of all the things you will accomplish when you get a "Round to-it"! I remember, as a child, trying the “I can’t” with my very wise Aunt. She turned around and said “Success comes in cans. … Failure comes in can’ts.”

I also remember reading a proverb that went something along the lines of “Even a journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step.”

Being the champion procrastinator that I am, my long-suffering husband finally got fed up with me saying “I’ll get around to it one day”. He took an old, unwanted CD and glued a circle of scrap cardboard to it. On it he wrote “Round To-it”. So now that I have my round to-it, I have no excuse!
Think of all the things you will accomplish when you get a “Round to-it”!

]]> By: Penny Parris http://matadornetwork.com/life/someday-syndrome-the-system-of-i-can%e2%80%99ts/#comment-56223 Penny Parris Tue, 09 Nov 2010 21:49:02 +0000 http://matadorlife.com/?p=4276#comment-56223 And yet, there are things that we simply can not do. And sometimes that includes climbing slippery rocks. And yet, there are things that we simply can not do. And sometimes that includes climbing slippery rocks.

]]> By: Jessie http://matadornetwork.com/life/someday-syndrome-the-system-of-i-can%e2%80%99ts/#comment-54135 Jessie Mon, 04 Oct 2010 15:59:13 +0000 http://matadorlife.com/?p=4276#comment-54135 Yep. My 1st grade art teacher even had big signs with "Can't" and a giant red X painted over it all over her wall. It was a good way of making you think in depth about what's stopping you. Also, sometimes in my yoga practice/life meditations I even go as far as to eliminate "not" from my vocabulary to get to the root of what actually is the inhibition here. Yep. My 1st grade art teacher even had big signs with “Can’t” and a giant red X painted over it all over her wall. It was a good way of making you think in depth about what’s stopping you.

Also, sometimes in my yoga practice/life meditations I even go as far as to eliminate “not” from my vocabulary to get to the root of what actually is the inhibition here.

]]> By: Glenda http://matadornetwork.com/life/someday-syndrome-the-system-of-i-can%e2%80%99ts/#comment-55959 Glenda Fri, 01 Oct 2010 13:54:45 +0000 http://matadorlife.com/?p=4276#comment-55959 I love this article. I soo want to travel the world and find myself saying can't a lot more these days. My husband is ready to go but I feel my son (from previous marriage) can't. His father doesn't understand why I would want to do such a thing and with his (our) son, absolutely not! My son, 13, lives with his father now. This is my husband's life long dream and he's ready to go with or without me. I can't leave my son.. can I. OHHH.. I so want to go.. but I can't leave my son behind... can I? Motherly guilt is a powerful thing. Sooo I guess for now this will be a someday :) I love this article. I soo want to travel the world and find myself saying can’t a lot more these days. My husband is ready to go but I feel my son (from previous marriage) can’t. His father doesn’t understand why I would want to do such a thing and with his (our) son, absolutely not! My son, 13, lives with his father now.

This is my husband’s life long dream and he’s ready to go with or without me. I can’t leave my son.. can I. OHHH.. I so want to go.. but I can’t leave my son behind… can I? Motherly guilt is a powerful thing. Sooo I guess for now this will be a someday :)

]]> By: Jess A http://matadornetwork.com/life/someday-syndrome-the-system-of-i-can%e2%80%99ts/#comment-55768 Jess A Tue, 24 Aug 2010 04:09:17 +0000 http://matadorlife.com/?p=4276#comment-55768 Such a good parenting philosophy that my mom used with me. What's funny is, she babied and pampered my brother his entire life (and he's 33 now) and he still needs lots of prodding to do anything! She employed the "no I-can'ts or it's-too-hards" with me (I'm 14 years younger) because I think she was tired of the incessant whining. So here I am at 19, doing much more than I ever thought I could! And I do have my mom to thank for it. Such a good parenting philosophy that my mom used with me. What’s funny is, she babied and pampered my brother his entire life (and he’s 33 now) and he still needs lots of prodding to do anything! She employed the “no I-can’ts or it’s-too-hards” with me (I’m 14 years younger) because I think she was tired of the incessant whining. So here I am at 19, doing much more than I ever thought I could! And I do have my mom to thank for it.

]]> By: EvaSandoval http://matadornetwork.com/life/someday-syndrome-the-system-of-i-can%e2%80%99ts/#comment-55738 EvaSandoval Wed, 18 Aug 2010 09:33:37 +0000 http://matadorlife.com/?p=4276#comment-55738 Just found this piece today... I thought it was terrific, especially the example of your daughter trying to cross the rough terrain. Fear, disinterest, inertia. Absolutely correct... but so many people refuse to own up. It's much easier to say "I can't" when it's too difficult, and "I hate you" to people who've done what you think you cannot. Just found this piece today… I thought it was terrific, especially the example of your daughter trying to cross the rough terrain. Fear, disinterest, inertia. Absolutely correct… but so many people refuse to own up. It’s much easier to say “I can’t” when it’s too difficult, and “I hate you” to people who’ve done what you think you cannot.

]]> By: cna training http://matadornetwork.com/life/someday-syndrome-the-system-of-i-can%e2%80%99ts/#comment-55301 cna training Thu, 17 Jun 2010 08:14:19 +0000 http://matadorlife.com/?p=4276#comment-55301 nice post. thanks. nice post. thanks.

]]> By: Greg Kruse http://matadornetwork.com/life/someday-syndrome-the-system-of-i-can%e2%80%99ts/#comment-55220 Greg Kruse Tue, 08 Jun 2010 08:39:01 +0000 http://matadorlife.com/?p=4276#comment-55220 Its good to have a few rules. Not too many, but a few. And that goes for everybody, not just kids! But I really decided to comment because I thought you might find this amusing: When diving in Bonaire, I bought a T-shirt that I like very much. Its pale blue and has a sailboat rushing across a white-capped sea under scudding clouds. Below this image it says: Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday Sunday See? . . . There is no someday. It's amazing how often I think of this little witticism. And how often it helps me make decisions in life! Its good to have a few rules. Not too many, but a few. And that goes for everybody, not just kids!

But I really decided to comment because I thought you might find this amusing:

When diving in Bonaire, I bought a T-shirt that I like very much. Its pale blue and has a sailboat rushing across a white-capped sea under scudding clouds. Below this image it says:

Monday
Tuesday
Wednesday
Thursday
Friday
Saturday
Sunday

See? . . . There is no someday.

It’s amazing how often I think of this little witticism. And how often it helps me make decisions in life!

]]> By: Leigh Shulman http://matadornetwork.com/life/someday-syndrome-the-system-of-i-can%e2%80%99ts/#comment-54212 Leigh Shulman Fri, 02 Apr 2010 12:29:03 +0000 http://matadorlife.com/?p=4276#comment-54212 Thanks for the comment, Alex. You bring up a good point. Too often, we find ourselves telling others "we can't" because it's difficult to say no. I-can't is an easy out. It allows us to escape responsibility for our own desires and needs. Which is all well and good short term, but ultimately, we need to own our choices. Thanks for the comment, Alex.

You bring up a good point. Too often, we find ourselves telling others “we can’t” because it’s difficult to say no. I-can’t is an easy out. It allows us to escape responsibility for our own desires and needs. Which is all well and good short term, but ultimately, we need to own our choices.

]]> By: Leigh Shulman http://matadornetwork.com/life/someday-syndrome-the-system-of-i-can%e2%80%99ts/#comment-54200 Leigh Shulman Fri, 02 Apr 2010 12:15:49 +0000 http://matadorlife.com/?p=4276#comment-54200 If you do, I'm curious to hear what they say. Congrats on your big changes. One thing I can say without a moment's hesitation. I never once regretted picking up everything to travel with my family. Yes, there are things I miss and there have been challenges, but overall, when I think of the places I've been, people I've met and experiences I've had, I know I made the right choice. If you do, I’m curious to hear what they say.

Congrats on your big changes.

One thing I can say without a moment’s hesitation. I never once regretted picking up everything to travel with my family. Yes, there are things I miss and there have been challenges, but overall, when I think of the places I’ve been, people I’ve met and experiences I’ve had, I know I made the right choice.

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