1.What getting a phone number means
An American girl giving you her phone number means she is considering going out with you. It doesn’t take long to get — after all, it’s her number, not a wedding ring. The same for Italian girls, right? HA!
With an Italian girl, you will work hard just to get her phone number. Right away, she wants to have an idea of how hard you are going to work to get her attention. In Italian we say (roughly translated): “He who begins well is halfway done”. Begin.
2. Who asks who out
An American girl will show you if she has interest in you, and she won’t be afraid to ask you out.
An Italian girl probably won’t ask you out first. Actually, take the ‘probably’ away. You need to ask her out first, always. Even the second time. And the third time.
3. Game on
An American girl isn’t so much into ‘the chase’ — she generally doesn’t run away for too long, or too far away. If she says she can’t go when you ask her out for a date, it’s probably true. Insisting too much would be inappropriate.
An Italian girl always wants to know how much you are willing to work for her. The fact that she says no the first time doesn’t mean she can’t go out or doesn’t want to. She is testing you. Now, the third time she says no, she means it (and don’t insist). But don’t take the first no as a fail. It’s a challenge, so accept it.
4. Primping required
American girls pay attention to how they dress, but guys… not so much. They’re often deemed as looking acceptable once they meet the minimum standards.
Italian guys take the same amount of time to get ready as American girls. On the one hand, fashion, elegance, and taste are embedded in the Italian culture, so Italian guys don’t even notice they have this going for them. But in Italy, especially for the first date, looks definitely count a lot.
5. Odd numbers mean good odds
An American girl can take time away from her friend to talk to you on a night out. She might even ditch her friend for half the night, depending how interested in you she is.
An Italian girl would never leave her friend alone. Therefore, either have a friend so you all pair up, or you need an odd number: 1, she is by herself; or 3, so she can spend some time with you because she leaves two friends together.
6. Chivalry is definitely not dead
American girls are much less used to guys being gentlemen — opening the door for the lady, waiting for her to sit before you sit, etc. Also, American girls often offer to share the bill after a few dates.
In Italy, it is going to be much longer before a girl pays for something when you go out for a coffee / drink / dinner. Italian girls expect, and demand, chivalry. Rightly so.
7. Skilled flirting is mandatory
American girls like flirting, but they’re much more direct. A good flirt is always enjoyable, but perhaps they are not too used to it.
For Italian girls, it not only is the ‘cherry on top of the cake’ (as we say in Italy), it is an art you are going to have to master if you want to date an Italian girl.