Why Nice Guys Finish Last

By wherespablo On February 5, 2013 · 3 Comments

For as long as I can remember I’ve consistently heard the phrase, “Nice Guys Finish Last”.

Heck,  I’ve gone through a spell of that mindset.

I remember I used to be the “nice guy” that always did the right things but never got anywhere. I would see a lot of people getting what they wanted and they were never anywhere as nice or respectful as I was. Hell, I thought a lot of them were dicks.

This baffled me and for the longest time I too became victim to the dreaded idea that I, a nice guy, would indeed finish last.

I mean, I would bend over backwards for people. I would go out of my way to ask about how they were doing. What could I do for them.

This applied to everything, but of course it always came back to being that “nice guy” with girls and never getting anywhere.

I remember, I would be the guy on the end of a phone counseling my crying friend. She would be beautiful and intelligent but she never noticed me. I was the guy that cheered her up, meanwhile she was chasing guys that were never good enough for her.

Yet here I was, being nice, asking how I could help and what I could do. In return I would receive the dreaded, “Thank you so much for being here for me. I’m so lucky to have a FRIEND like you”.

Those words will forever be crushing the spirits of nice guys and gals…

Luckily, over time, I unknowingly grew out of the “nice guy” grave.

It hasn’t been until recently that I finally started to realize why and how.

You see, for as long as I can remember I was…

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3 responses to Why Nice Guys Finish Last

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    Scott Hartman said on February 5, 2013

    I never said anything about seeing this as negative. Simply responding.

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    Pablo Guzman said on February 5, 2013

    Did you even read my post? I wrote about being passionate about what you do regardless of what it is, how are you seeing this as negative?

    I’m not aiming at bashing the volunteer either.

    I help people all the time, not because of an expected return, but because I genuinely like to help.

    As for hope, yeah, I do hope that who I am has a positive influence on those around me. If I’m not bringing up and helping those around me then what am I doing? (and no, I don’t “do it” for that reason) Few people like to be around negative people and energy.

    Thank you for commenting : )

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    Scott Hartman said on February 5, 2013

    For myself, the volunteer I’d gravitate towards would be the most human of the two. I don’t give a rats ass about hierarchal/who’s getting things done . . . give me a good person, Every Time.

    And, I disassociate myself from any results/Expectations of what I do. I do what I do to serve the person/and/the moment. I don’t “do it” with the hope of anything; what I do is not an investment in any future . . . it is an investment in Now.

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