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Sometimes all it takes is a small gesture to turn someone’s day around.

Three years ago, I worked as an intern in my town’s public library. I spent many mornings there typing up educational programs at the head librarian’s computer, surrounded by just bookcases. The job was a lonely one because the library hours were sparse. One day, a man walked into the library and handed me a cup of cappuccino.

“Just thought you’d enjoy something warm,” he said with a smile, and disappeared through the door.

That one extremely simple act has stuck with me over the past few years as being one of the most genuine expressions of kindness.

So why not do something nice for a person at random? If you need advice on how to make someone happy, the following are some favourite ideas from Thank Goodness It’s Monday, including contributions from the comments.

1. Smile at a stranger
2. Put a quarter in someone’s expired meter
3. Pay for the person behind you at the drive-thru
4. Buy flowers at your grocery store and give them to the cashier on the way out
5. Call your parents to apologize for when you were a brat (especially if you have kids)
6. Recreate one of your first dates with your significant other
7. Put a post-it note on the bathroom mirror for your significant other, just to say I love you
8. For kids, eat ice cream for dinner
9. Smile as you’re holding the door open for themselves
10. Tell your boss that they’re doing a good job

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11. Tell your boss your co-worker is doing a good job
12. At the office, brew a fresh pot of coffee
13. Give flowers to the receptionist
14. Take a friend out for supper for no reason
15. Let the other driver take the parking spot you’re competing for
16. Give your friend chocolates, for no reason
17. Let your child pick what’s for dinner, and have them help you prepare it
18. Write a letter to a teacher who has influenced you
19. Buy someone a present, but don’t tell them who it’s from
20. Mow your neighbour’s lawn or shovel their driveway in the winter
21. Tell somebody in customer service that they’re doing a great job
22. Carry someone elses groceries to their car
23. Leave goodies in your mailbox for the mailman
24. Buy lunch for a homeless personally
25. Teach your kid the Chicken Dance

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About The Author

Candice Walsh

Candice is a travel writer and blogger currently stationed in St. John’s, Newfoundland. When she’s not shooting whiskey and hitting on men, she’s eating nachos and dreaming about her next big adventure. Check out her blog, Candice Does the World.

  • http://www.lolaakinmade.com Lola

    Fantastic post. Won’t we all be living on a higher moral plane if we all did more of your suggestions above?!

    Love it.

    • Candice Walsh

      Seriously! The simplicity of these acts struck me the most. I’ve gotten into the habit of picking a random homeless person once or twice a month and handing them $10. Not much, but still.

  • http://www.canvas-of-light.com Daniel Nahabedian

    Candice!
    I absolutely LOVE it :)
    I often do many of the things listed here. Not only does it make someone else’s day but it also makes YOUR day :)

    May I add some of my favorite things too?
    -Stop in front of a cafe window and stick a post-it with “You are beautiful” to the person sitting inside.
    -Give a hug or sit next to a homeless and have a chat with them (no they are not disgusting).
    -Offer a short massage to a friend.
    -Offer a smile to the grumpy people in the metro.

    Share some LOVE! :)

    • Candice Walsh

      Awesome, thank you! I love the cafe idea.

  • http://milesofabbie.com Abbie

    Great suggestions, Candice – thanks for this post :)

    • Candice Walsh

      Anytime, now go forth and pay it forward!

  • http://onceatraveler.com Turner

    26. Treat your Couchsurfers to dinner, and vice versa.

    • Candice Walsh

      Definitely a good one, thanks!

  • http://matadortravel.com/travel-community/travellohr Sabina

    Hey, Candice, these are great. Here’s another one – when you see an elderly person, a disabled person or someone who just looks lonely and seems like they must have a harder life than you, smile, say hi, talk to them for a minute or more. That can make their whole week.

    • Candice Walsh

      Thanks, Sabina! The elderly are definitely worth mentioning. A smile goes a long way.

  • http://travelsofadam.com Adam

    Excellent ideas!

    I love the idea of treating a friend to dinner for no reason. A friend of mine taught me that early on when she treated me to a sno cone for no reason! I was confused, surprised, thankful and then refreshed.

    • Candice Walsh

      I tend to feel guilty when people buy me things like that, because I know most people don’t have money to waste. But the key is to pay it forward I think, everybody wins!

  • http://wheretherebedragons.com Tim Patterson

    Love the list, thanks!

    • Candice Walsh

      Thanks!

  • http://matadornights.com Kate

    What does it say about me that I’d be very reluctant to drink a cappuccino given to me by a stranger?

    I love the list, though, Candice.

    • Candice Walsh

      Hah! Totally didn’t even think of that, Kate. Would have been a great opportunity for some crime…young girl sits in library, alone.

  • http://www.thefutureisred.typepad.com/ Leigh Shulman

    I love these!

    It’s so important to remember to place the focus outward, on other people. Thanks for the list of suggestions on how to do it.

  • JP

    Great list!
    Whenever possible I like to pay for someone’s groceries; the look on their face after they accept it and walk away is worth every penny!

    • Candice Walsh

      I freaking love the grocery idea…if someone paid for mine in a line-up, I’d be happy for a year.

      • amellia

        wow! thats awesome. it’d make my year too!

  • charlie74

    This is awesome! the only comment i have is to be careful when tabbing someones meter. Tolerance with this differs state to state, meter nazi to meter nazi. Also, if you have any old blankets or sleeping bags that you think are garbage, fold them and give them the homeless. Not only will they appreciate it, you may just save their life.

    • Candice Walsh

      Much better than doling out change, I think!

  • http://www.ontario-travel-secrets.com G. Spencer

    If you read a great article in your local newspaper (or wherever), email the reporter and thank them for it. I did this recently and the reporter wrote back and said I “made her day”.

    • Candice Walsh

      YES! Fantastic.

  • http://poweruplife.com Steve L

    Candice! Great post!
    Once when driving across the Bay Bridge in Oakland CA, someone payed my toll for me (4-5 dollar value). It had such an impact on my day it was ridiculous! To do something like that for someone is $5 well spent.

    • Candice Walsh

      I’m totally loving these comments, I wish I could add them to the list. Insane how easy it is to plaster a smile to someone’s face, eh?

  • http://stephanietannerphotography.com Steph

    I do the same, although instead of $10 cash I buy them their choice of dinner from one of the takeout restaurants near my school (KFC, Subway, a little thai place, etc…) that way I know the money went where it should

  • http://jerrysproject.webs.com Jerry Cr

    Hey, I loved the list… only one thing… It is a little hard to pay for the person behind in the drive thru because you have no idea on how much will they order or what will it be… I would suggest that instead you could pay it for the person behind on a toll highway!

  • Andrew

    Thanks for this. to add i always when coming to a stop sign wave the other person to go. hold the door for people. and just generally look to be a decent member of society,

  • http://alainarose.wordpress.com Alaina O’Brien
  • kristia

    just a quick comment on jerry’s post:

    the value of the order of the person behind you is not necessarily unknown. i used to work at starbucks and every once in a while a good soul would start this off.

    for drive-thru places, there’s usually already a line of orders already taken on the screen by the time you get to the window to pay =)

  • G.B.S.N.P.Varma

    Candice, lovely post.

    If one is not able to do 2-25, the first one will do. Smile smile Smile.

    Spreads sunshine. Warms hearts. Dissolves probs. Makes the day livable & lovable.

    Finally, looks beatific on any face and on the person behind the face.

  • http://Yahoo Jewels

    I really like the pay for the other persons groceries now that is a big heart especially if it’s a mother with a couple of kids with her and she looks stressed and tired! And the pay off of seeing their face as they walk away is priceless!

  • http://Yahoo Jewels

    God bless you who wrote about paying someone’s groceries, especially if it’s a momma with a couple of children that is looking stressed and tired. And then stand outside to see her face and how she explains to her children about what just happened! Excellent idea.

  • AL

    Great post, Candice!

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