1. References about how beautiful your hypothetical mixed babies would be.
2. Having no idea what they just said.
3. Knowing you’ll never be mistaken as brother and sister…We totally could have been adopted though.
4. Encounters with family members or friends you can’t speak with.
5. Saying something in your native language and feeling sexy.
6. Hearing something in their native language and it being sexy.
7. Accents in general.
8. Expressing affection in different ways.
9. Using “culture” as a crutch to letting them get away with behavior you don’t agree with.
10. Being referred to as “The American” “The German” “The Aussie” instead of as “the xyz.”
11. Wondering if they’d move for you.
12. Wondering if you’d move for them.
13. Trying to learn basic phrases in their language.
14. Painfully chopping up those phrases. And laughing about it.
15. Ceasing jokes about bad grammar.
16. Appreciating people who are bilingual.
17. Your significant other not getting references or jokes to childhood experiences, TV shows, pop artists, etc. exclusive to your culture.
18. Eating new things.
19. Trying to cook new things.
20. Moments from friends and family of “Oh, I know someone from [insert country or race America, Germany, Australia, Mexico etc.]” because like your significant other knows everyone from their country and race.
21. Questions about visas.
22. Disapproving words or stares from people who don’t believe in interracial or cross-cultural dating.
23. Questions about where you would raise your unborn children.
24. Long nights of discussing what you hate about your culture.
25. Long nights of discussing what you love about your culture.
26. Discussions about why the US Education, Health, War, and Justice system sucks (if one is American).
27. Discussions about the US failure to “get” soccer (if one is American).
28. Celebrating another country’s holidays.
29. Celebrating another country or race’s traditions.
30. The expat trying to get a job.
31. Spending more time with his/her family or friends because of the distance to yours.
32. Or vice versa.
33. Knowing they can take you places only natives/locals know of.
34. Having a personal translator in at least one language.
35. Wondering if you’ll make it past this weekend, these few months, or lifetime together.
36. Trying new things.
37. Learning new things.
38. Actually moving to a new city or country, doing long-distance, or breaking up.
39. Inappropriate racial jokes that make you sick.
40. Pioneering the new world by statically going against that in 2015 most people still don’t date outside of their race.
41. TOO MUCH PRESSURE TOO SOON
Because your decision to move or do long-distance shouldn’t have to be made until you know each other well enough to make that decision, but hey, you don’t have a choice when flights are booked.
42. Wondering what would have happened if you did live in the same city.
43. No pressure because it’s just a traveler fling, and you know it wouldn’t work out in real life anyways.
44. Assumptions that either person has a “fetish” for a certain race or culture.
45. Making real-life sacrifices.
46. Appreciating something for what it was.
47. Not resenting someone who wasn’t ready to make those sacrifices.
48. Having no regrets about trying.
49. The novelty of dating someone of a different country or race.
50. Understanding that love sees no color, feels no borders, hears no accent, and tastes nothing but sweet sweet kisses of trust, friendship, and passion.
This article was originally published on TravelBreak, and has beeen re-posted here with permission.