On Queer Cruises, You Can Truly Be Yourself, and These Are the Best to Take

Splash, an iconic New York gay bar that opened in 1991, shuttered in 2013 — a common casualty in an exhausting list of queer establishments killed in recent years by digital apps and gentrification.

Atlantis Events, on the other hand, is steadily growing in popularity. The company threw its first shindig in 1991 and only attracted 300 attendees. Today, Atlantis hosts over 20,000 guests annually on multiple cruise ships around the world. Its spring and summer 2024 cruises are already sold out. For some queer people, queer cruises fill a void once occupied by gay bars.

“There’s a difference between being at a gay bar, where nowadays, people go to hang out with friends more than they go to meet people,” Sullivan says. “At home, you can meet people on apps. On a cruise, you can meet people face to face.”

Since 2003, Lenoard has been on three more Atlantis excursions, including trips to the Hawaiian Islands, the Caribbean, and Europe’s western coast. On a recent queer cruise, he celebrated a close friend’s 40th birthday. They met during his first journey nearly twenty years prior.

The accessibility of queer cruising

Friends aren’t the only easy things to find while cruising. A queer cruise is like a buffet for seasoned vagabonds and a starter kit for virgin travelers. “Everything you could want is easily accessible onboard,” Sullivan notes. There’s an abundance of activities, fine-dining options, world-renowned performances, and unparalleled nightlife.

The port-side excursions make pricey international travel accessible, too. “On a cruise, you can get a taste for multiple countries, dabble in different cultures, and decide where you’d like to go back in the future,” he says.

Although the libidinous circuit party atmosphere of Atlantis might not be everyone’s style, Sullivan praises the experience’s versatility. “What I like about these cruises is that they can be for every type of gay person,” he says. “At 6:00 AM, there are old men playing canasta and watching the sunrise while an afterparty in the basement is just letting out for the night. You can sit by the pool. You can surf. On top of that, you can see tons of amazing drag performers and gay comedians brought on the ship by Atlantis.” In his travels, he’s seen everyone from brassy belter Patti LuPone to comedian kinkster Margaret Cho.

Julia Murney, a Broadway star who recently sang on an Atlantis cruise in French Polynesia, remembers there being “1,300 gay men, nine lesbians, and me.”

While she might’ve been the lone straight woman on the ship, she always felt welcomed. “I have a sneaking suspicion the kindness was related to the group of people on board,” she says. “I don’t know how it feels when you have to wonder if you can safely take your sweetheart’s hand in public. I hate that it’s a question that [LGBTQ] people have to ask. But I can imagine what it’s like on a vacation where you don’t have to think about it.”

On his last cruise, Sullivan met a few men from Egypt, where LGBTQ individuals regularly face discrimination and persecution. “These cruises are gay Christmas for me,” he says, “so for them, it must be another level of freedom.”

The ease cruise ships afford travelers is one of the many reasons the industry is booming. And while many of the early cruises were marketed primarily to gay men and lesbians, today, trips cater to a more diverse range of queer travelers.

An array of queer cruise options

People might associate LGBTQ cruises with nightly Atlantis-style raves, but queer voyages come in all colors of the rainbow. Olivia Travel — a lesbian-centric tour operator — is regarded as the lady-loving equivalent of Atlantis. The company hosts around twenty trips every year, including cruises, adventure outings, riverboat tours, and resort stays. Its first all-lesbian cruise set sail in 1990, and today, it’s one of the only cruise companies dedicated to providing boat adventures specifically for the Sapphic set.

R Family Vacations — a cruise provider geared toward LGBTQ families and their allies — was designed to provide queer travelers a safe, judgment-free place to relax. In 2004, Murney performed on the company’s inaugural voyage. “This is the kind of cruise where two dads and their children come on board with one of their brothers, his wife, and their entire family,” she says. “Everyone is welcome.”

Since 2004, over 20,000 people have joined R Family Vacations for its one-of-a-kind experiences. “R Family’s reality is the correct reality — where a family is a family, and it doesn’t matter if there are two moms,” says Murney. “No one’s going to side-eye them.”

For those who find luxury-liner trips overwhelming, several cruise companies offer intimate boat tours instead. Out Adventures, an LGBTQ tour company, hosts private yacht cruises along Croatia’s Dalmatian Coast and to the Galapagos Islands. The largest boat accommodates 40 travelers. Brand G River Cruises, a deluxe river cruise company with an average of 60-150 passengers, takes travelers along rivers like the Danube, the Amazon, the Seine, and the Ganges to get an in-depth taste of specific inland regions.

Murney, who has also performed on river cruises, holds them in high regard. “You always see land, they’re much less prone to seasickness, and it’s much more convenient to get to the heart of exciting cities than on a big boat.”

The cost of queer cruises

There’s usually a hefty price tag associated with the freedom found on LGBTQ cruises. Fares range from good deals for under $1000 to luxury trips costing over $10,000.

It’s also important to note that none of these fees include traveling to or from the ship’s point of origin, and many ships offer payment plans for passengers with financial restrictions. If you’re looking for a deal, be prepared to plan ahead — companies like Atlantis and Olivia often sell out a year or two in advance.

As for intimate cruises with companies like Out Adventures, prices begin around $5,000. With a high barrier to entry, it’s common for guests to be older and wealthier, with the median age onboard in the 50s or above. Atlantis Events attracts a slightly younger crowd from their early 30s to early 50s.

The price doesn’t end with the boat, either. Most gay cruises host elaborate theme nights where guests strut their stuff in costumes so intricate they give Bob Mackey a run for his money.

“Plan all your outfits for theme parties before arriving,” Sullivan suggests. “As much as you think you can throw something together last minute, you will want to be prepared.”

These nights become a competition in creativity and a celebration of queerness. “I’d love to see the overweight and extra-luggage fees for the people on board,” Murney muses about her Atlantis adventure, “because [the guests] came for the outfits. I mean full wigs, shoes — everyone was fully committed to the fantasy.”

Julia’s phone is filled with pictures of the most outrageous costumes she saw on the ship. There’s a team of bears in pink tutus, a gaggle of older men dressed as lady nurses, a smiling couple in leather regalia, and a muscled jock dressed as a baby shark.

In one picture, she points out a man wearing an inflatable wig as part of a campy high-seas drag ensemble. “Now that’s practical,” Murney giggles. The man in the picture tilts his head toward the sky and smiles like Debbie Reynolds playing the Unsinkable Molly Brown — eternally joyful.

Cruises you need to check out in 2024

Atlantis Events: The Greek Isles Cruise from August 4 to 13 will explore some of the top Mediterranean destinations, including the Greek Isles, Turkey, Malta, Sicily, and Mallorca. The journey begins in Athens and ends in Barcelona. Fares begin at $1499. There’s also an opportunity to stay on board and sail onto London from August 13 — 23.

Olivia Travel: Explore the cerulean Pacific waters around French Polynesia on the Tahitian Intimate Luxury Cruise from September 5 to 12. With only 312 LGBTQ women on board, this week-long excursion will be a relaxing way to dip your toes into group travel without getting overwhelmed.

The Majestic Alaska Cruise from September 21 to 28 is a must-do for ladies who love nature. The cruise departs from Seattle and takes guests to Alaska’s pristine waters for an exciting itinerary of wildlife and adventure excursions.

R Family Vacations: Summer Cruise aboard the new Celebrity Beyond to the Bahamas is a family-friendly LGBTQ cruise from July 7 to 13. It departs from sunny Fort Lauderdale and stops at three ports, including a day at Coco Cay and the beaches of Grand Cayman and Bimini.

Out Adventures: The Ecuador Galapagos Gay Cruise from May 21 to June 5 includes sunbathing with seal pups and swimming with marine wildlife. Out Adventures cruises book up very quickly, but if you miss out on the summer trip, there’s another departing November 11 to 20.

Brand G River Cruises: The Prague and Danube River Cruise from August 27 to September 5 will take guests from Pasgsau to Melk, Vienna, Bratislava, and Budapest — a fun and efficient way to see Eastern Europe’s hottest spots with queer companions.