8 skills our parents had that we don’t
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My love of baking has always made me feel geeky, a bit granny-ish. In recent years though, Generation Y’s cool kids have all started baking blogs. They also knit, crochet, and grow vegetables in community plots. I once met a very urban couple my age who proudly admitted to making their own cheese. Cheese!
While twentysomethings are often painted as gadget-obsessed, we’re known as a nostalgic bunch too. These homebody hobbies are proof. Some babyboomer skills, however, aren’t trickling down through the generations. Below is a list of things our parents did: talents and hobbies that, however useful, have fallen out of fashion.
1. Driving a Stick
In 1950, half of the cars being bought in the United States were manual transmission. By the start of the millenium, more than 90% of cars purchased were automatic. Our parents may hold onto their manual cars, but as younger generations hit the road, the stick declined in popularity.
Why (pardon the pun) the shift? When the automatic car was first introduced, it was more expensive than manual, and the new technology was met with skepticism from car lovers. Now, automatic cars have levelled out pricewise and won our trust. Parents often feel automatics are safer for their children, as they’re easier to drive and run no risk of burning out the clutch.
People usually drive whatever kind of car they used when learning. My father learned how to drive standard from his dad, but preferred automatic. When it came time for my driving lessons, he hadn’t driven stick in decades.
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2. Cooking from Scratch
My father likes to tell me a burn he heard once between gossiping wives, thirty years ago. “She’s the type of woman who would serve a store-bought dessert!”
I love this line for how telling it is of our generational differences. My peers wouldn’t bat an eye at bakery cupcakes or baklava at a dinner party. They’d probably cheer. We may watch Masterchef and sign up for weekend Thai cooking classes, but on average Generation Y cooks less than our parents did.
What’s more, when we do cook, we use more ready-made ingredients than the baby boomers. I’m not just talking brownie mix and instant pudding, but staple items that, in our parents’ day, would be cooked up from scratch. I mean the chicken stock, tomato paste, and ready-made pie crusts that even self-proclaimed foodies keep in their cupboards.
3. Soapmaking
If you made your own soap in middle school, you’ll remember how surprisingly easy it was: lye, water, and animal fat or oil. The cost? Pennies. While past generations would whip up large batches at home, the practice is almost obsolete today.
I remember my granny’s homemade bars of soap: cloudy-looking cut slabs with pointy corners. It was a world apart from the smooth, milky Dove bar in my bathroom today. The humble bar of soap has been branded many times over into a luxurious, multitasking product. Now, commercial soaps have added properties that aren’t easily replicated at home. You can buy a bar that is non-irritating, antibacterial, exfoliating, moisturizing, shaped like a kitty-cat, and smells like Clinique Happy. Even the fancy bars are still fairly cheap.
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4. Simple Carpentry
My parents built their dining room table over thirty years ago.
My dining room table is a previous tenant hand-me-down. The one before that? A $70 Ikea number assembled from a box with an Allen key, and sold online when I moved.
Simple carpentry has declined in popularity, and not just because college kids have figured out how to build bookshelves with milk crates and 2x4s.
Furniture is now mass-produced like never before, making it cheaper and easier to replace when redecorating or moving house. Secondhand furniture, which used to mean shabby hand-me-downs from grandparents, has gained chic through fleamarkets and and popularity Craigslist. We can kit out an apartment for cheap without taking to the saw and hammer… though that Ikea Allen key is in the drawer, ever-ready.
5. Knife Sharpening
At a dinner party, an older and ever-practical friend pointed at my knife and asked, “Why don’t you sharpen it? It’s become dull.”
I nodded. “You’re right, I should.” I knew he meant to sharpen the knife myself. He knew I meant paying a professional to do it. Knife-sharpening is (I was told) a simple skill, but definitely on the decline.
With Gen Y-ers eating our more and cooking less, it makes sense that our knives don’t dull as quickly as our parents’ knives. A lot of knives today have no-dull guarantees or free sharpening included in their warranties. Large home supply stores sometimes offer free knife-sharpening too.
As for the Ikea or Target knives that most of my friends have in their kitchens? We don’t mind swallowing the $9 loss and just buying a new one.
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6. Home Maintenance
Sure, our generation can install an antivirus system and disable a firewall. I’m sometimes called to do so on my parents’ computer, while they eye their PC with wariness and distrust. They call me “handy,” and I know they’re just being nice. I call constantly for advice on banal home issues like replacing fridge lightbulbs.
When it comes to household maintenance, though, it seems we’re not nearly as handy as our folks. Faced with a leaky pipe or a door fallen off its hinges, Generation Y is more inclined to call a professional for help (or… our dads).
In the 1970s, over 70% of men learned basic home repair skills from their fathers. Now, the number is at 40%.
Why the decline? While our parents bought houses in their twenties, ours is a generation of renters, subletters, and condo dwellers. If something breaks, we can (and do) get a landlord to fix it.
7. Mending
My mother’s sewing supply kit takes up a full dresser drawer. Mine is a Ziplock bag of complimentary thread-and-shitty-needle packs, pocketed from hotel rooms. Even sadder? My “kit” gets borrowed a lot. I’m the prepared one among my peers. Yikes.
Most baby boomers can alter hemlines, sew on buttons, and mend rips in their clothing. Generation Y, not so much. Though many twentysomethings learn the basics of sewing from parents or in school, they’re rarely put into practice.
With the rise of cheap clothing retailers (H&M, Primark, Target), fashion has become a disposable, replaceable commodity. Our penchant for picking up cheap secondhand clothes affirms this too.
When we do have a piece that needs tailoring, we take it to a professional. Also, some people just get their moms to mend their clothes. You know who you are.
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8. Cursive Writing
I’ve been conscious of penmanship ever since, two years ago, a Japanese student asked to see me write in “beautiful” cursive. I took my pen to paper, and only after a few blushing tries could I finally remember how to do it. “I’m sorry,” I told her, “I haven’t written like this since I was a child.” I’m sure that even my third grade self would have done a nicer job.
It turns out, most of Gen Y is in the same boat, Our parents learned penmanship as a valuable art, practicing it with hand-written essays and letters all through their lives. For me and my peers, the penmanship skills we learned in school have faded from lack of use. Our technophile generation rarely writes by hand, except for scribbling notes to ourselves. Though we can email, text and tweet more easily than our parents, mom and dad would smoke us when it comes to neat handwriting.
Cursive writing, according to teachers, helps muscle control and hand-eye coordination. Funny, my students say the same thing about the Nintendo DS.![]()
Anne Merritt
Anne Merritt has lived in Canada, Europe, and Asia. She teaches ESL, writes, haggles, hikes, and wears sunscreen fanatically. Her work has appeared in The Globe and Mail, GoOverseas.com, and The Compass. Check out her blog.
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I’m only fifteen and I’m pretty proud to say that I can do everything but number three. It’s nice living all my life at a conservative community sometimes <3
I’m proud to say that I can actually do all of these!
Wow, you really dont think much of us Gen Y-ers, do you? Frankly I am somewhat offended. I know how to cook from scratch, drive stick, do basic carpentry, repair my home, and write in cursive. I will probably teach any of my future kids at least some of this stuff, as I think many of my cohorts will.
Honestly I understand you want to use “we” to try and include yourself into my cohort (bad move, we dont like intruders or phonies), but please take up the habit of speaking for yourself. Just because you are hopelessly inept does not mean everyone else from 1990 is.
CB, I don’t think it’s at all a matter of the author thinking little of the readers of this article. It is excellent that you have the ability and the know-how to do all of the above, but let’s not be naive enough to believe that the majority of the readers of this blog are as self-sufficient. I say that not in a condescending manner, but as a fact. This generation, though varied, is not nearly as self-sufficient as the generations before us. These tasks, easy as they may be, are not often performed in the same way they used to be. This article was completely relevant and on point. Referring to the author as “hopelessly inept” made your entire argument look foolish, as there was no reason to be insulting, was there? As mentioned, I think that it’s great that you possess all of the skills listed above, but perhaps you ought accept that not everyone is so fantastically adept as you claim to be, and that perhaps rather than berating someone who wrote a rather good article, you could see it for what it is – a very accurate portrayal of what society is today.
Its kinda weird that lots of people dont do these? I live in Ireland and do all of these…. except for the soap making and carpetery of course ^.^
and like im not old, im only 18?
Ummm, as a 22 year old male, I know lots of people my age who can do most of these. Home maintenance and carpentry have always been apart of my life. Knife sharpening and soap making are things I taught myself. Mending just makes sense. Baking from scratch and stick shifting is how I grew up. My cursive isn’t pretty but readable.
Most of my friends probably do all but the baking and soap making. It’s all about stretching the dollar. My fiance can usually get groceries close to the price of the tax a on the retail value because she coupons (7-10%). It’s not that we are poor, we have both grown up in middle class families, we just know how to manage money and time.
oh my, i’m 30, am i so old? i only know how to write in cursive, we didnt learn other one at school!
In Europe almost everyone drives manual. So do I and I have tested both, my preference goes, obviously, to manual. Who learned to drive in manual can drive automatic for sure, but not the other way.
The person who wrote this article is retarded if they cannot do any of these.