1. Listen. Kids talk on the trail.
My three sons are in general not talkers. The parenting method of “Hey, son, let’s gather on the couch and talk about what’s going on in your life” does not work for me. They would regurgitate their muffin breakfast and run.
But when my boys get out on the trail and relax, their mouths move. Recently I heard “I want to hike the PCT when I’m done with college.” Don’t zone out. Take advantage of their flapping lips and you will may get valuable insight into what’s going on with them.