The post-travel bluesSeveral years ago I spent seven months living in France. The country of baguettes, berets and brie became my new home.

One day however, I was forced to return to the United States. I was happy to go home and see my family, drink Northwest microbrews and be with my friends again.

On my flight home however, something strange happened.

As we neared the Seattle airport, the sounds of the airplane went silent; for a moment I was left only with myself and the sensation of descending.

The moment I felt the wheels touch the ground I instantly burst into tears. The woman sitting to my left glanced awkwardly in my direction.

I pulled myself together and made my way into the terminal, forcing a smile when the customs agent said “Welcome Home.”

I managed to climb into my parents’ car, emotionally torn between my “normal” home and my new one in Paris. The following weeks went by and I found myself in a slump; all I wanted was to return to France.

As many great minds have said, sometimes the hardest part about traveling is coming home. We experience so many things, push ourselves outside of our usual comfort zones, and learn more about ourselves as individuals.

Be it a one week trip or a year-long expedition, returning home is difficult. Emotions run high and your life can feel a bit out of control. The good news is, there are solutions!

1. Put some decent hours into making a photo album

It’s time to put the hundreds of photos stored on your computer to good use.

Printing your pictures and turning them into an album full of travel eye-candy not only gives you something to show your family and friends, but it also takes you on a visual trip back through your travels.

Each photo gives you the chance to re-savor the moment that was caught on film.

2. Throw a dinner party

After your photo album is complete you’re going to want to show it off. Use the occasion to put together a themed dinner party, with food and music from your recent travels.

Your friends and family will get a true taste of all the elements that made your travels memorable.

3. Find other travelers

Other travelers have inevitably spent some time on the same emotional rollercoaster. Not only are they more forgiving of sentences that begin with “On my trip..” or “When I was in…” but they also understand the culture shock that you are going through.

4. Find the local expat community

If you’ve spent extended time in another country you may find that you have been seduced by its culture, customs and language.

What used to be foreign now comes as second nature. We sometimes even use the expression “at home” when referring to our host country.

So when back on native soil, it’s time to track down the local expat community of the place you’ve left. Here you can share all the things you loved about the culture with natives, who are equally happy to find an understanding friend in their own host country.

5. Write about it

Keeping a travel journal seems to be a travel tip that a lot of people give. What they don’t tell you is that a post-travel journal can be equally helpful.

Record your experience of culture shock, your joy in reconnecting with friends and family and your difficulty readjusting.

Another method of recovery can be working on travel essays about your trip. Use the occasion to gather and clarify your thoughts and produce some great travel writing.

6. Be there for other travelers

After you’ve gotten through your own post-travel blues, it’s time to help someone else get through theirs. Remember to ask specific questions:

“What were you doing the second to last day of your trip?”
“What was your usual morning routine?”
Stay away from general ones, like “How was your trip?”

The more specific questions you ask, the more likely your fellow returnee will light up and launch into a detailed and interesting travel anecdote.

Don’t stop dreaming

And remember- one of the best ways to recover from post-travel blues is to start planning your next trip!

Anna Brones has a love of culture, foreign languages and good food. When she is not on an adventure she spends quality time in her native Pacific Northwest. Her writing has appeared in Transitions Abroad, A Woman’s World Again and Matador Travel. Her personal travel writing endeavors can be found at Intercrossings.

Any more tips you would add to the list? Share in the comments!

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About The Author

Anna Brones

Anna Brones is a writer and social media strategist with a love for travel, sustainable design, and the outdoors. She has lived in Sweden, France, Guadeloupe, and the Pacific Northwest. She is the co-founder of Under Solen Media, where she develops social media marketing strategies to positively align brands, causes and adventurers. Anna maintains her own blog and is also a regular contributor to EcoSalon, Elephant Journal, and Been Seen.

  • http://www.travoholic.com Kirsty

    At that dinner party though I think it’s important to remember that when people ask ‘how was your trip’ they don’t usually want a 5 hour account of it. Make sure to make the evening as much about catching up on what’s been happening in your friend’s and family’s lives as it is about you telling them about yours.

  • http://blog.joshuaberman.net Joshua Berman

    Here’s my take on dealing with reverse culture shock, which I compare to a cold bucket of water in the face:

    http://blog.joshuaberman.net/06-09/reverse-culture-shock-a-bucket-of-cold-water-in-the-face.html

  • http://www.bravenewtraveler.com ian mackenzie

    Hi Kirsty, great tip. It does make others feel appreciated when you’re interested in their adventures, even when they didn’t leave their home.

    And Josh, great post. Thanks for sharing it.

  • http://www.rucksackwanderer.com/ Tim Patterson

    Yeah, thanks Josh – good to see you on BNT.

    Kirsty – I agree, a 5 hour monologue isn’t fun for anyone, but I think the great part of the dinner party is that it immerses guests in the feel of the foreign country, even if the conversation is about the last episode of Lost.

  • http://www.india-guided-tour.com Nich

    The article gives a wonderful insight into how to make the most of one’s travel. It’s really good to put together all those photograpgs, be in touch with the local expats, write about your experiences and arrange dinner parties.

    A good article with some good ideas!

  • http://www.travelinsurancefinders.co.uk/travel-insurance-elderly.htm Jamie Leech

    How about this. Don’t stop travelling!

    It is really depressing coming home, I was despressed for a while but the key is to throw yourself back into work and start planning that next trip!

  • http://www.tiffanyhsu.com Tiffany

    Sometimes I think reverse culture shock is much harder to get over than culture shock. Good point about seeking other travelers. It's funny how when you live abroad with people from around the world you can feel like you're better understood than when you're back home with people who grew up the same way you did.

  • Luasol

    Thanks for the info. I returned from a 20 day vacation in Brazil. Just coming back from the heat to the cold was a shock! I have been back for two weeks. I understand the post travel blues. I have been busy with work and posting travel pics on my Facebook. Once I get my taxes done, I am putting my return into savings for my next trip back to Brazil.

  • Kaitlin Mills

    Great article. I sometimes hate coming home espically when you know that all that’s waiting for you is a bill and returning to the places you were travelling away to begin with.

  • http://womanwanderer.wordpress.com Woman Wanderer

    Coming home at Christmas was the worst timing. Everyone already had plans, I had been gone a year which was enough time for two of my closest friends to move away; and in short, I was miserable.
    One thing that helped my through was hosting Couchsurfers. That gave me at least one person to talk to who knew exactly what I was feeling.

  • Josh

    I just returned from my 9 month RTW Gap Year and i’m feeling it hard. Thanks for the advice!

  • Josh

    I just returned from my 9 month RTW Gap Year and i’m feeling it hard. Thanks for the advice!

  • Anonymous

    you people make me sick

    • http://twitter.com/coldlikedeath Anna Sirén

      Oh, do shut up. You most likely know nothing of the experiences in this article. Go troll elsewhere.

  • timmy

    I’m feeling the P-T B at the moment (not good – think I was on the brink of an actual panic/anxiety attack walking through my home city – very depressing). On the plus side however, I decided to keep my year long RTW trip going for at least 10 more months – hooray – 4 more weeks and I’ll be off again. Think the best way to avoid the blues is to just not stop travelling….. :p

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