In between dreams

Your dreams on the road can offer insight into yourself and your journey. Tim Patterson shares his own experiences.

I press my tongue against a tooth in the back of my mouth. It wiggles.

“That’s weird,” I think, feeling a little anxious. After all, I’m 25 years old. My baby teeth are all gone and I’m way too young to start thinking about dentures.

My heart is pounding, but my teeth are firmly in place. It was only a dream.

I reach into my mouth, grab the loose molar between two fingers and give it a slight, tentative tug.

Oh shit – it’s barely attached to my gum. Even worse, the tooth next to it is also loose. What on earth is going wrong with me?!

Suddenly, all of my teeth start falling out! The coppery taste of blood covers my tongue! In a panic I…wake up.

My heart is pounding, but my teeth are firmly in place. It was only a dream.

The Dream Of Travel

Travel can sometimes feel like a dream. When you’re jet-lagged and wandering the misty streets of a strange city at dawn, it can be hard to tell whether you’re actually awake. A good hard pinch is often the only way to know for sure.

A great deal has been written about the dreamlike state of travel. But what about real dreams? Do travelers dream differently when they’re on the road?

I think the answer is yes. Dreams are a way for our minds to process information, and the onslaught of new sensations we encounter while traveling means that our dreams become correspondingly more vivid and intense.

Here are five archetypal dreams that travelers may experience:

1. Loss Of Control

Under the moonlightThe dream I describe above about one’s teeth falling out is a classic “loss of control” dream. Without teeth we are as helpless as infants, powerless and dependent upon others.

Traveling in a foreign country can also make us feel helpless. Without speaking the language or understanding the culture, we are unable to communicate. The horrifying tooth dream is a reflection of this feeling of powerlessness.

Another “loss of control” dream that I’ve experienced while traveling is driving a car and suddenly realizing that the pedals are out of reach. (Anyone who has survived a moto-taxi ride in Phnom Penh can sympathize).

2. Home Sweet Home

You wake up in your own bed, go downstairs, make coffee and read the local paper at the kitchen table. Your parents are already up, eating their breakfast, and your dog comes over for a pat on the head.

Everything is blissful and happy…until you wake up and find yourself back in the ratty hostel in Uzbekistan. Crap. Home is a long, long way away.

Dreaming idealized visions of home is not uncommon when traveling, especially if you’re already feeling a bit homesick. This sort of dream is a symptom of culture shock, which afflicts all travelers from time to time.

Although waking up in a strange place after dreaming vividly of home can be a miserable feeling, it’s important to realize that homesickness is a natural part of travel.

Plus, although you’ll no doubt have countless mornings at home to look forward to, you probably won’t ever come back to Uzbekistan, so get outside and enjoy the day!

3. Speaking In Tongues

If you speak in a foreign language while dreaming, it’s a sure sign that you’re beginning to feel at home in your new environment and culture.

If you speak in a foreign language while dreaming, it’s a sure sign that you’re beginning to feel at home in your new environment and culture.

Dreams are perhaps the most intimate, personal and unguarded moments of our day to day lives, and if a foreign language enters into your dreams it means that a new place has penetrated to the depths of your sub-conscious.

This is good news for ex-pats and longterm travelers, because getting in tune with the local culture and speaking the local language is key to getting over culture shock and experiencing a genuine sense of place.

For travelers with limited time, however, dreaming in a foreign language might be a sign that it’s time to move on to the next destination!

4. I’m Flying!

You jump into the air, come back to earth and jump again – the ground is as springy as a trampoline. One more jump and suddenly you feel a resistance under your arms. Pushing off, you rise into the air. You’re flying, and the only thing you can think is why didn’t I learn how to do this earlier!

The flying dream is one of the most intensely pleasurable dreams a traveler can hope to experience. It signifies total freedom, self confidence and the opening of new horizons.

These are exactly the sensations that travelers hit the road to find, so if you’re lucky enough to enjoy a flying dream it’s a clear sign that your travels are sending you on the right path.

5. The Sex Dream

I’ll resist the temptation to go into descriptive detail about sex dreams. Suffice to say that travelers are not immune to the occasional embrace with tangled sheets and an unfortunate pillow.

For those unlucky enough to travel without their romantic partner by their side, travel can mean suffering through a significant dry-spell. In this case, a sex dream is a clear sign that it’s time to get home, before dreams grow into a temptation to stray in reality.

For single travelers, a sex dream is also a sign – to drop the pillow and get out and meet people already! Although some cultures may frown on pre-marital flings, a hook-up with a fellow traveler is always a potential option.

What dreams have you experienced while traveling? Leave a description below and BNT’s resident fortune teller and psycho-analyst Tim Patterson will give you an interpretation.

BNT contributing editor Tim Patterson travels with a sleeping bag and pup tent strapped to the back of his folding bicycle. His articles and travel guides have appeared in The San Francisco Chronicle, Get Lost Magazine, Tales Of Asia and Traverse Magazine. Check out his Matador profile.

About The Author

Tim Patterson

Tim Patterson is a longtime contributor and former contributing editor at the Matador Network.

  • Laura

    once again your writing has spurred me to comment;

    during one restless night in a private jungle cabana in southern Belize, the day after a contentious nation-wide election toppled the unpopular/corrupt prime minister, I dreamt I looked out my window to see Punta Gorda burst into violent flames in a long series of bombings. The city was obliterated.

    In my dream, I figured “terrorists” did this to maintain control after the election didn’t go their way. The airport was surely razed or inoperable, so I wondered how I’d get back home to my family.

    I’d say this fits in the “Loss of Control Colored by Conservative Fearmongering” category don’tcha think?

    Thanks for bringing up this off-beat subject.

    Laura

  • http://www.rucksackwanderer.com/ Tim Patterson

    Thanks for the comment, Laura! Sounds like a spooky dream – I’m glad the rest of your trip was great and free of bombings.

  • http://www.uncorneredmarket.com Audrey

    Tim, I was laughing when I started reading the description of the teeth dreams. How did you know?!!

    Foreign language dreams are fun, but can also be exhausting. When we were traveling with some French tourists in Tajikistan, my dreams involved translating between French, Russian and English. Then the day would start and it would continue in reality.

  • Cedric Pieterse

    Tim, good post! I liked the last bit about the erotic dreams. To the contrary, I actually think that to have had my girlfriend with me while we travelled was very good for us. Even if the pillows got nervous when I went to sleep.
    The GOLDEN rule is not to mention any one else’s name in your sleep…

  • http://www.rucksackwanderer.com/ Tim Patterson

    Haha, that’s very true, Cedric. I’ve never made that mistake and hope like hell it never happens.

  • Daniel Harbecke

    I’m bringing my own pillows from now on, guys…

  • http://completeandcreative.com Terry

    I like #3 and #4 and the last sentence of the first paragraph of #5. Well said.

  • http://www.thecompassculture.com Lusine Stepanian

    Dear Fortune Teller Tim :)

    I agree with you on the 3rd point. However, I had a rather strange dream. Before taking off on a backpack tour to Europe, I dreamed that I was fluent in Mandarin. I have never spoken Mandarin in my life, nor have I traveled to Asia. Do you think this means something? :) Maybe I should have backpacked through Asia.

  • Ian Holm

    I had the teeth Dream in Chang Mai, Thailand. But looking back, i can’t remember if i felt that i was losing control, I was just having a really good time.

  • http://www.rucksackwanderer.com/ Tim Patterson

    Lusine, your Mandarin dream is a clear sign that China will play an important role in your life – you could travel to China (I recommend the Southwest), but you should also keep an eye out for ex-pat populations of Chinese in the European cities you visit. How are they treated by the locals? What role do they play in society? How are Chinese immigrants treated differently from, say, immigrants from Africa or India?

    Happy dreams!

  • http://www.wranglingrhinos.com N. Chrystine Olson

    I had a series of dreams over a six month period abroad dealing with ex boyfriends. All friendly encounters, in chronological order about our respective relationships and why the romances did not work out. In many of these dreams the ex declined an invitation to travel with me. My favorite though, involved a yet unidentified handsome Scandinavian type , tall and broad shouldered, who was in the balcony of an auditorium where I was giving a reading to a large audience. Afterwards I go to his seat and I receive the warmest hug. We are obviously a couple and I woke in my tent in Swazialnd wondering where and when I’ll find this lovely man.

    Great story Tim. Love tapping into the collective unconscious, Jungian style ;)

  • Kaitlin Mills

    Really loved this one. I have had the teeth falling out dream before as well, freaked me out no end, I wasn’t even travelling.
    One dream I did have though when travelling was I was suddenly walking around a city and suddenly someone handed me a child, and I remember vividly asking who’s kid is this and everyone ignored me. Very strange.
    Thanks again.

  • http://thoughtfulnomad.wordpress.com Kristen

    I’ve had some weird dreams while traveling, but when I started reading this post it reminded me of some dreams I had right after I got home from a trip…I spent a month living in a homestay in Lima, Peru. I had gotten used to no air con, broken windows, a room full of people and bunks, loud street noises, etc. every night. For about a week after I got home, I would wake up every single night in a panic because I could not figure out where I was…my room at home has air con, one bed, no street noise…you get the point. I remember one specific night when I dreamt that I went to sleep in my bed in Peru and woke up in my bed at home. I ran out of my room crying and asking people how I got there and saying that I needed to go back. I woke up during that dream and literally had to feel the wall next to my bed to figure out where I was! Anyways, it’s interesting how our travels can affect our dreams! Great post!

  • http://yaramaz.livejournal.com maryanne

    I have never had the teeth dream but I’ve had another slightly similar dream that has reappeared with great regularity of over the years when traveling: I swallow things I shouldn’t have and wake myself trying to cough it up. I’ve dream-swallowed contact lenses, buttons, pens, keys- you name it. Improbable, awkward things have slid down my dream throat. As well, I’ve woken myself from dreams in which I had found myself in situations that weren’t quite right (camping tent facing wrong direction! room sealed shut) trying to fix said dream-problem– my tent-mate found me trying to pull out the tent pegs once, and I’ve woken to find myself circumnavigating a ‘sealed’ dorm room trying to find an exit. My travel dreams seem to teeter much more closely to the edge of wakefulness.

  • Chris Megrue

    Tim great post! I had a crazy dream last night about getting lost in China and suddenly forgetting all the Mandarin I know, no one spoke english or wanted to help me. I was on my way home from 3 months abroad where I have been studying Mandarin. I am not that good to begin with but getting a train ticket to Shanghai to catch my flight with no language was near impossible! I woke up and said a few words just to make sure I actually did not lose all of it.

  • http://www.illadvisedadventures.com Adam Roy

    The travel dreams that bother me are always the ones that seem vaguely foretelling. Before leaving on the trip I’m on now, I had a spate of dreams involving national parks, clouds of angry bees, and, at one point, zombies.

  • Anya

    Well, just before setting off to travel I see dreams about missing my plane. Ridiculous dreams. Like, I must get into the elevator to get to Gate X, and it takes ages to arrive there, or I push the wrong button and find myself in some jungle instead of Gate X.
    That was scary! O.o

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