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WHEN I WAS 19 I hopped on a plane headed for San Jose del Cabo in Mexico. I was to work in an all-inclusive resort for six months as part of the activities staff. I was scared as hell. I didn’t speak Spanish; I’d never traveled anywhere on my own before; I didn’t know what to expect. But one thing I did know is that what I was doing at that point — taking business classes in college — was the last thing I wanted to be doing. Once I had that motivation for my actions and took the first step, it was like a snowball rolling downhill. Fears be damned, there was no turning back.

In the slideshow below, Harish Kumar from Launch Your Genius explains how to tackle the very human emotion of fear and turn it from something that stops you to something that teaches and drives you. The 10 points he hits on are:

  1. Awareness of fear and fearful situations
  2. Types of fear
  3. The basis of fear
  4. Recognizing cues and triggers that sustain fear
  5. Getting a proper perspective of fear
  6. Action dispels fear
  7. Fear as a teacher
  8. Transforming fear
  9. Community support: Finding examples
  10. Managing your energy

What fears have stopped you from doing something you wanted to do?

Consciousness

 

About The Author

Carlo Alcos

Carlo is the Dean of Education at MatadorU and a Managing Editor at Matador. Like him on Facebook and follow him on Twitter. He lives in Nelson, British Columbia.

  • days inn kissimmee

    very very energetic post i fully enjoy the post and video boost me with energy.

  • Coleen Monroe

    As a traveller who also suffers from anxiety, I often struggle to figure out what is a reasonable fear and what is not. My brain is really good at convincing me that situations remote in possibility are likely to happen, or that danger is bigger than it really is.

    The best phrase that I’ve heard to help me identify what is fear and what is anxiety is this: Fear is being afraid of a tiger in the room. Anxiety is being afraid of tigers somewhere in Asia.

    While in India this year that travel mantra took on new meaning, as it was harder to figure out where the boundaries of the room were and where the tigers were. Of course, it took on a deeper metaphorical sense because there really are tigers in India! Even though they are so rare, they definitely still warrant fear in some areas, just like the metaphorical tigers of danger in India. I don’t feel that I did a very good job distinguishing between anxiety and real danger, but at least I got to see a real tiger in Saway Madhopur. The most amazing part? I was exhilarated, but not afraid. Turns out my fear of tigers in Asia is a lot higher than my fear of a tiger in the room.

    • http://matadornetwork.com/ Carlo Alcos

      Thanks for sharing that Coleen. Some wise words there. Off-topic, but speaking of tigers, have you read The Tiger by John Vaillant? Excellent read, and lots of insight into our relationship with nature and on the culture of people who live in the Siberian taiga.

  • Pan Vidla

    Ever since I watched Twin Peaks, where agent Cooper said “I guess nothing is that bad, when you can take fear out of it.”, I’m not irrationally scared of travelling. Only when bad stuff starts to happen. And it rarely does, really.

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