1. Don’t let surfing rule your life.

Surfing, in the grand scheme of things, is not important. It is not something that should take away from anything else in your life. In fact, if it is done correctly, it should add to everything else in your life.

Your partner wants you to surf less and see them more? Surf less and see them more. Showing up late to work and getting your boss’s leather couch all sandy? Get up earlier, get that surf in, then get to work on time. And brush yourself off, for Christ’s sake.

A lot of surfers have a tendency to pretend surfing is more important to them than it actually is, because that’s part of the surfer stereotype: Surfing’s the source. Change your life, swear to God. Etcetera etcetera. It’s not the source. It might change your life, but probably not in some epiphany-type realization — you might just get healthier and feel a little more relaxed. And that’s not from just surfing. That’s the exercise and the vitamin D.

Don’t be this. You can’t do it better than him.

2. Don’t try to be a surfer.

Just surf. If you surf, and you love surfing, you’re a surfer. Don’t actively try and be a surfer that you’ve seen in a movie, because they’re not real. And if they were, they wouldn’t be all that great. Just be who you are, and surf while you’re doing it.

There’s almost nothing worse than talking to someone who has recently identified you as a surfer while they themselves are also a surfer. It’s not some elite club with a secret handshake and a lig patinay password. It’s just surfing, and Spicoli isn’t real — nor should he be.

3. Don’t pull back.

Surfing can be scary sometimes. That’s part of the fun. But because it can be scary, it can also be very easy to back out of opportunities that may not come your way again. Remember that wave you pulled back on that you wish you didn’t? Everyone has a few of those.

Don’t pull back. Unless you’re surfing massive Teahupoo, chances are good that you won’t die. Sure, you might get a little hurt, but that will heal. And if you make it, that memory will be a whole lot better than kicking yourself for the rest of your life.

This is really, really unlikely to happen at your local spot. Deal with it. Photo: Roche

4. Stop chasing perfection.

While surfing (ideally) is great for being in the moment, it’s also incredibly easy to think about why it’s not as good as it could be. Yeah, the wind is a little onshore. And yes, the direction is a bit off. But it doesn’t matter, really. Being too focused on a destination can ruin your whole trip. There are a million clichés around that, and they’re all true.

Enjoy the wave you’re on, don’t hate it for being too small. Try not to think about how much better it was the last time you were here, or during that perfect swell last fall. Enjoy the moments of greatness, but realize they are few and far between. After all, that’s what makes them great.

This is the only man that’s allowed to be looking back. Focus on what you’re seeing, not what you want someone else to see.

5. Avoid social media.

Social media is our culture’s most narcissistic creation. Everyone is posting things they want others to see, but no one cares, because they’re all just posting things they want others to see. It’s an awful little circle. In the age of GoPros, Facebook, and Instagram, showing what you’ve done to the faceless masses is easier now than it has ever been before.

But when you’re concentrating on capturing the moment for someone else to see, you miss out on it yourself. And don’t forget: No one actually cares how much you pretended to enjoy yourself, so you might as well actually enjoy yourself. What a novel concept!

* This post was originally published at The Inertia and is reprinted here with permission.