I had my two boys 20 months apart, so I get it. Parenting is exhausting and all-consuming. When considering where to go on vacation, it is tempting to pick the all-inclusive resort that will whisk your kids into camp and bring you a poolside, frosty mixed-drink. However, travel with young children offers an opportunity to expand their worldview in ways that few other activities can.
My husband is of Indian descent, though most of his family has now moved to the West. He speaks fluent Hindi and Bengali, lived in India for close to a decade, and travels there frequently for business. When our sons were one and three we had the chance to join him on a business trip to Delhi, where we could then tack on a few extra weeks of travel. Many of our friends thought we were insane; over sixteen hours on a plane, questionable sanitation, exposure to possible diseases such as malaria, the witnessing of mind-blowing poverty, plus two little ones still in diapers…who in their right mind would sign up for that ride?
Our month-long adventure surpassed my every expectation, and although there was an airport meltdown, crushing jet lag, and a delightful bout of Delhi belly (me, not the kids, thank goodness) we made it through relatively unscathed. I hardly remember the tough times as the trip was so rich, so vibrant, so breathtakingly beautiful. If you’re interested in having your own “off the beaten path” adventure with your young ones, here are a few tips to ease your travel experience.
I assume that anyone with kids knows the basics — pack a ton of favorite snacks (graham crackers, apple sauce squeezies, Lara bars, turkey jerky, and trail mix are our favorites), pack the comforts of home (blankie, stuffed animals, night light, favorite books and toys), bring a small DVD player that can get banged around, pack small new toys and games to pull out on the plane and on long car rides (along with crayons, paper, markers, stickers, anything to pass the time), and a well-stocked medicine bag. Whew! But here’s some advice that might be new to you:
Loosen your parenting standards.
I run a pretty tight ship at home but when traveling to a place as foreign as India, my husband and I felt it was our job to make the boys as comfortable as possible, and indeed that made things more enjoyable for everyone. You want chocolate chip pancakes for breakfast? Go for it. Ready to leave the palace when we just arrived? Here, have a piece of candy to hold you over. There were a lot of special treats, little presents (a.k.a. bribes!), and nutritional compromises. We also let go of our strict screen rules and allowed the boys to unwind with Elmo as much as needed (thanks to a cheap portable DVD player and toddler headphones). Allowing for special treats and adjusting the rules you live by at home will help to make travel more relaxing, and will give you some options for enticing young travelers to stick with the adventurous itinerary.
Give them some space.
Dirty water, crowded streets, stray dogs, food-born illnesses — it’s hard not to want to place the kids in a bubble when facing third-world conditions. While we were cautious, we made sure to let the boys explore and found plenty of open spaces to foster their curiosity. We visited farms, villages, palaces with large courtyards, forts with maze-like tunnels, and parks. It’s important to factor stops into your itinerary that will allow children space to run and blow off steam. Even in a city as crowded as Delhi, we found Lodi Gardens, a beautiful park with plenty of space for a game of pick-up soccer. Giving kids their time for fun will help focus them when it comes time for activities that call for standing in line, obeying stricter rules, or sticking close together.
Pack a sack of “less-loved” toys and give them away.
Everywhere we went, the boys wanted to play with the children they met, and of course the children were drawn immediately to their toys. When we knew we’d be interacting with children in a village we were visiting, or on a farm, we would pack a small bag of extra small toys. When we arrived, my husband and I would visit with the adults and the boys would pull out their trucks and play with the children. When it was time to go, we would tell the boys to gift each of their new friends a toy truck. We always made sure the boys’ favorite toys were in the car so that the giving wasn’t followed by remorse. This worked remarkably well and led to some great conversations about sharing. We also kept an eye out to make sure things didn’t get out of hand. At one village, when tons of kids swarmed at once and got grabby, the toys went away, and that was that. Use your best judgment with this one, but in family-to-family situations, this worked wonders to break the ice.
Invest in comfortable accommodations.
When you were in your twenties, traveling alone or as a couple, an uncomfortable night’s sleep wasn’t the end of the world. Add a couple of small children to the mix and an uncomfortable night’s sleep actually is the end of the world! Make sure you book a room or rent a house where everyone in your party can get proper rest. Don’t try to sleep four to a bed — the savings won’t be worth the exhaustion and tired kids don’t make for happy travelers. It also helps to bring along a few comforts from home, like a night light, favorite blankie, or stuffed animal.
Let it go.
Release yourself from expectations and strict itineraries. The most beautiful travel moments of our trip came when we let go of our itinerary and followed the day wherever it took us. On a particular morning when the boys were tired, we skipped our planned itinerary and decided instead to take a drive through the countryside surrounding Udaipur. We happened upon a joint family compound of farmers — grandfather, grandmother, their two sons, and their wives and young children — who invited us in for lunch. The boys played happily in the dirt with the kids for a few hours while we enjoyed a relaxing afternoon. It was one of our favorite moments. One that we could never have planned for but had all the power to let happen organically.
This story originally appeared on Medium and is reposted here with permission from the author.
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