You know that slightly kinky fantasy you have? It probably isn’t all that weird: According to a sexual diversity study conducted in the US, more than 22 percent of sexually active American adults engage in role-playing, while 30 percent have tried spanking. Another survey found that nearly half of the 1,040 people surveyed were interested in kink, even if they hadn’t had the opportunity to explore it. Whether you’re familiar with the words ‘collaring’, ‘subdrop’ and ‘figging’ — or you think mummification is something only done in ancient Egypt, BDSM dungeons make a great place for the sexually curious to turn those kinky daydreams into reality. And while the word ‘dungeon’ might conjure up a very specific set of images, fear not: all tastes, experience levels, and types of person are welcome here (so long as they’re respectful).

Before you submit to any ‘dominant’ you find online, hold on for just one second: BDSM involves you putting your mind, emotions, and quite possibly your genitals in the hands of someone else — so make sure you pick someone who knows what they’re doing. To help you along, we’ve whipped up this list of 10 of the best BDSM dungeons the US has to offer.



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1. Pandora’s box, New York City

Originally founded and managed by Mistress Raven in the mid-’90s who, at the time, was one of the most famous dominatrixes in America, this legendary venue featured in Nick Broomfield’s documentary Fetishes — as well as a book by photojournalist Susan Meiselas, plus numerous magazine articles. The facility is now run by a collective of professional Dommes and subs who specialize in pretty much every discipline your kinky mind could whip up… and they’re more than happy to show newbies the ropes. Themed rooms range from traditional (think medieval torture chamber and schoolroom) to more niche options: the pink boudoir puts the myth that BDSM = red and black to rest.

Are couples welcome? Yes
Do non-cis-female Doms/subs work here? The dungeon is staffed by cis females, but there is a private playroom for hire — so if you can source your own kink partner, you’re ready to roll.

2. Donatella Den, New York City

If you’re done with dark dungeons, here’s one that offers something a little different: There’s a pretty pink crossdressing room for those who want to activate their girlie side, plus a wrestling ring, a Victorian-themed room, a vintage studio, two medical rooms, a classroom, castle chamber, leather room, and industrial-themed ‘blue room’…phew.

Handily located in Midtown Manhattan, this NYC kink-stitution is run by over 20 pros who offer patrons a range of specialisms, including the unique opportunity to be publicly humiliated: As their website says — “We will be happy to parade you through our spacious dungeon so that all of our gorgeous Mistresses can have a proper laugh at your predicament. If you are an exceptionally amusing case, we might even take you to a fetish club so that the patrons can also enjoy your humiliation.” Who’s in?

Are couples welcome? Yes
Do non-cis-female Doms/subs work here? The dungeon is staffed by cis females, but there is a private playroom for hire.

3. Spanking Club of New York, New York City

Established in 1997, this spanking club has earned its reputation as an institution in the world of CP (that’s Corporal Punishment for those unacquainted), and its pedigree is recognized across the country. Like all the venues on this list, it’s big on safety: there are strict house rules, plenty of helpful resources, and single males looking to attend a party must make a reservation before they join.

While the club doesn’t offer pro services, it’s is run by the highly experienced Ms. Margaret who’ll answer any questions and help you find your way. There are also events, including a biannual weekend trip to the mountains where spanking fans can let off steam (and rest sore bottoms) with themed activities, cocktails, and jam sessions for the musically inclined.

Are couples welcome? Yes
Do non-cis-female Doms/subs work here? There are no pros working there, but the club welcomes all genders and orientations.

4. La Domaine, upstate New York

Step inside one of the oldest BDSM training venues in the world. This decadent chateau in upstate New York has been in operation for over 29 years and has well earned its reputation as a high class spot for kinky types. It’s a training ground for Mistresses and Masters, couples and slaves — so if you’re just starting out, here’s your spot.

Run by Mistress Couple and Master R, La Domaine doubles up as a bed-and-dungeon: couples staying overnight can enjoy in a BDSM furniture-bedecked room, and erotic library, plus gourmet dinners served by none other than the Domaine slaves. As if that wasn’t enough, there are workshops, seminars, events — plus chocolate tasting to sink your teeth into.

Are couples welcome? Yes
Do non-cis-female Doms/subs work here? Yes

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5. 1763, Atlanta

Founded in 2003, this iconic dungeon boasts the largest playspace in Atlanta. No professional dominants or subs work here, but you’re more than welcome to invite your own. Rooms here are lavish and well-designed: expect lashings of black leather, red drapes and glittering chains, with a special shout-out to their ‘web prysm’ — a giant chain spider web — and its aftercare room, which is full of squishy bean bags for chilling out on post-play.

Also on offer is a calendar of events aimed at seasoned pros and newbies alike: there’s sub school, munches (that’s casual kink-community get-togethers for the layperson), rope tying classes and more.

Are couples welcome? Yes
Do non-cis-female Doms/subs work here? The dungeon is staffed by cis females, but there is a private playroom.

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6. The Vault, Houston

Under the auspices of veteran Domina Shannon — a revered Dominatrix with over 15 years of experience — this kinky hideaway is run collectively by five professional Dominatrixes who’re on-hand to put your obedience to the test. As if this wasn’t good enough, this dungeon has another jewel in its crown: it’s stocked to the rafters with an array of custom toys and furniture, much of which has been hand-crafted by artisans. Take the St. Catherine’s Wheel for a spin, or go medieval and take a turn in the stocks.

Are couples welcome? Yes
Do non-cis-female Doms/subs work here? The Vault is currently run by cis females.

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7. No Escape Dungeon, Las Vegas

Located just 10 minutes south of the Las Vegas strip, this world-famous dungeon is run by Steel Bond, a leather Daddy who’s been wielding whips for over 30 years. Over that time, he’s amassed an impressive array of gear and fetish knowledge — so whatever predicament you two cook up, you know you’ll be in safe hands. Take your pick from kennels, isolation boxes, and bondage chairs (four and counting), or get yourself in a real bind and let Bond wrap you up in duct tape and rope.

Are couples welcome? Yes
Do non-cis-female Doms/subs work here? Yes: This is a space for gay men.

8. Sanctuary Studios LAX, Los Angeles

Run by the devilishly strict Headmistress Cyan, Sanctuary LAX has everything you need to while away a few kinky hours: the house pros are here to help turn your fantasies into reality. The best thing about this dungeon is the sheer range of professionals who work here: you’ve got a mix of genders, ages, Masters, Mistresses, subs and switches — all with their own profile page, so you can get to know your pro before you book. A stone’s throw away from LAX, it’s the ideal spot if you’re traveling for work or pleasure. And if you miss your flight? No problem: this dungeon offers overnight rentals. That’s way better than forking out for a cheap motel room.

Are couples welcome? Yes
Do non-cis-female Doms/subs work here? Yes

9. Threshold, Los Angeles

This non-profit organization has a mission: to educate the sexually curious and welcome all into the world of BDSM. If you’re a bit nervous about stepping into kinkier pastures, worry not: this is a safe, judgment-free zone that has earned a reputation as the place to go for those just starting out.

Facility-wise, there’s a big main room, plus seven — that’s SEVEN — themed rooms to explore, each well stocked with all the furniture and toys you could ever need. While there are no pros working there (it’s entirely staffed by volunteers), there are experts on hand to help you out, plus a packed calendar of kink-themes classes and other events designed to make the uninitiated feel right at home. Check out their pinned tweet to get started.

Are couples welcome? Yes
Do non-cis-female Doms/subs work here? No pros work here, but Threshold welcomes those of all genders and orientations.

Best BDSM dungeon in Florida

10. Goddess Girls, Florida

Tired of all the black and red? Welcome to Mistress Mercy’s dungeon, a white, sparkly playspace that features one of the only ABDL (that’s Adult Baby/Diaper Lovers) playrooms in the US. The quite frankly adorable nursery comes complete with a crib, pacifiers, and an array of outfits to choose from, while The White Room — a traditional dungeon, save in color scheme — comes equipped with a cage, wooden pillory and spanking bench, among other instruments designed for humiliation and (consensual) pain. There’s also a ‘sissy boudoir’ room, which comes well-stocked with frilly outfits and more jewelry than you can shake a stick at. Ideal or transforming even the most manly of men into a demure little princess.

Are couples welcome? Yes
Do non-cis-female Doms/subs work here? The dungeon is currently run by cis females.